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Defy the Trend Community

A coaching community for those suffering from burnout from making change

Being a change agent – an activist, a spiritual or religious leader, a teacher or student, an executive or manager, or a parent, partner or spouse – requires so much of you.

Especially if you are trying to make positive change in your life, family, school and community.

You want to make your corner of the world a better place. That means working hard so that you can have a big, positive impact.

But what often happens is that you:

  • Pack your calendar with far too many work, school, family and community obligations that don’t have anything to do with the impact you wanted to make in the first place.
  • Say yes even though your calendar says NO.
  • Take care of others at the expense of your own mental, physical and emotional health.
  • Feel like you are the only one who really wants to make change.
  • Finally take time off, only to feel as exhausted as you did before.

AND, worse yet, you blame yourself for all of the above.

At Defy the Trend, we are here to tell you: This reality is NOT your fault.

A racist, patriarchal and toxic capitalist culture tells you that working is the only way you have any value. You are taught to sacrifice yourself for the sake of “saving” your workplace, school, or religious community. You are told from the time you can barely walk and talk that taking time to rest is selfish. You never learn how to really rest. You’re taught that you must get more efficient, more productive, more organized … so that you can do more, more, more.

The problem:

You are unfocused and spent, not because you failed, but because our culture has failed you.

The solution:

Defy the Trend coaches you to carve out a schedule that makes wellbeing top priority.

The Defy the Trend community is open for new paid members until Jan. 6, 2023.

After that, please sample the free community to be the first to now when we open again in spring 2023.

Defy the trend has three community packages:

01

Seeker (Free)

  • “Create a Burnout Proof Life” 5-part mini course
  • Sampler pack of my favorite guided meditations for beginners
  • A free pass for one restorative yoga class (Wed. at 8:30 a.m. ET, or recording later)
  • Community Connections weekly email newsletter with tips and resources 
  • Limited access to the Defy the Trend Online Community
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02

Explorer ($75/month; $900 yr)

Value: $110/month or $1,430/yr

  • Weekly 1-hour restorative yoga/meditation classes live via Zoom
  • Quarterly restorative yoga/meditation tune-ups (2 hours) live via Zoom
  • Library of 50+ recorded yoga classes (all classes above recorded and archived)
  • Access to a members-only library of audio and video guided practices, including: Stress Relief Bundle, Good Sleep Kit, Mindful Meeting Starters, 2-hour yoga/meditation restorative practices
  • Community Care Group Coaching sessions (60 minutes) each month
  • First crack at my one-on-one coaching calendar in six- or twelve-session packages at $120/session (20% discount), offered every fall and spring.
  • Community Connections weekly email newsletter with tips and resources
  • “Create a Burnout Proof Life” 5-part mini course
  • Full access to the Defy the Trend Online Community

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Trailblazer ($120/month; $1440 yr)

Value: $205/month; $2,470/yr

  • Community Care Group Coaching sessions (60 minutes) each month
  • Weekly 1-hour restorative yoga/meditation classes live via Zoom
  • Quarterly restorative yoga/meditation tune-ups (2 hours) live via Zoom
  • Quarterly planning sessions so you can create a calendar that prioritizes your wellbeing and everything else that matters to you.
  • Library of 50+ recorded yoga classes (all classes above recorded and archived)
  • Access to a members-only library of audio and video guided practices including: Stress Relief Bundle, Good Sleep Kit, Mindful Meeting Starters, 2-hour yoga/meditation restorative practices
  • Learning library including: all mini courses, the Time Boss and Creating a Burnout-Proof Life online retreats, and any new courses and retreats created in the future
  • First crack at my one-on-one coaching calendar in six- or twelve-session packages at $120/session (20% discount) offered every fall and spring
  • Community Connections weekly email newsletter with tips and resources 
  • Full access to the Defy the Trend Online Community
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How will these things help me?

Planning Sessions

“I don’t have time,” was the reason I heard most when I asked people why they didn’t take time to rest. I developed these quarterly planning check-ins so you can gain clarity about what matters most to you and to schedule the time you need for yourself.

 

Restorative Yoga and Meditation Classes

Are you beyond exhausted? When you are, you might turn to a glass of wine, a bowl of popcorn and a TV show or movie. Let me be clear: I am in favor of those things. However, I have found that the deepest rest and the most healing comes through yoga and meditation practice. Thousands of years of practice and recent scientific research backs up how effective these practices are at alleviating the effects of stress and anxiety. That’s why I teach it: So I can pass its awesomeness onto you!

 

Courses and Retreats

Do you yearn for time to step away from the normal rhythms of life? Take time to go deeper into time management, creating a burnout-proof life, getting better sleep, starting a mindfulness practice, and more through my longer courses and retreats.

This supportive coaching community will help you make your well-being the priority it deserves to be.

What do members say about it…

“Nicole came into my life at a crucial turning point and one I didn’t think I could get through. Her guidance and mixture of coaching/meditation/view-reframing helped me once again see a path forward. [It was] 2020 so the path was messy and built by a two-year-old, but it’s a path! I look forward to continuing my journey with Nicole as I find my way through the dense woods to a higher viewpoint of clarity.”

Lindy Boustedt

Filmmaker, CEO of First Sight Productions

“Nicole is passionate about what she does, and it shows! Since participating in my first retreat with Nicole, I have built an at-home yoga practice, practiced meditation and self-reflection in new ways, and gained support to continue my own personal growth.”

Jenn Ringgold

Church and Youth Worker, School Board Candidate

“My sessions with Nicole provided me with a safe space to explore new healing potential within my own mind-body. I felt refreshed, restored and deeply resourced in a way that allowed me to sustain a feeling of well-being even after our time together. I am appreciative that Nicole is an attuned healing practitioner who welcomed the challenges of my everyday living experience and helped me find ways to become more resilient.”

Rev. Emily Howard

Pastor and Mental Health Advocate

The heart of the Community

Defy the Trend pushes back against our toxic burnout culture by honoring each person, their identities, vulnerabilities and opinions.

Defy the Trend Values:

Diversity. We strive to welcome people of all races, ethnicities, gender identities and expressions, sexual orientations, body sizes and abilities, neurodiversity, and all other parts of ourselves that makes us the unique humans we are.

Welcome. We extend welcome to each other and presume welcome for ourselves.

Learning. We normalize failure so that we grow and learn.

Grace. We always offer ourselves and others grace as we learn and grow.

Vulnerability. We bring our whole selves, even our mistakes, stumbles and failures.

Commitment. We make a commitment to being part of online conversations and another two to three Defy the Trend activities per month.

Who is behind this community?

Here’s a little more about me and my passion for smashing the patriarchy that fuels the formation of this community.

I am Nicole Havelka.

For starters, here are some of my identities: I am a straight, single, cisgendered, white, U.S.-born, neurotypical, educated woman who has been smashing the patriarchy since 1991.

The most important thing about me: I cannot resist making change. It’s just who I am. (I am an Enneagram 8, “The Challenger,” for you Enneagram aficionados.)

Upside: I was hired often to be the change agent in organizations that desperately needed to move forward from their stale mission and declining programs.

Downside: People resisted the change and took it out on me. That is exhausting. I eventually reached burnout.

Fortunately, I learned very early that I needed to take care of myself to survive and even thrive in these stressful situations. I discovered yoga and meditation in 2004 and haven’t looked back since. I am now a Registered Yoga Teacher at the 500-hour level and I have done specialized training in breath (pranayama), meditation – including iRest yoga nidra, restorative yoga, trauma-sensitive yoga. I am also a Reiki Master.

But wait, there’s more! After working as a journalist in my early career, I felt the wild and totally unexpected calling to ministry in the United Church of Christ in 2000. I went to Chicago Theological Seminary, graduated with a Masters of Divinity, and then was ordained in 2004. I worked with at-risk youth, then transitioned to and fell in love with coaching, training and supporting people who were exploring their own life purpose and calling. I constantly nagged them to take care of themselves, which is why I eventually came up with the idea of combining these three passions: Coaching and training, plus yoga and meditation, that get wrapped into this community.

Smiling Nicole Havelka with long purple hair, black sweater and gold necklace.